The person who does not love another person—parents, life partner, spouse, one's own and other people's children, and people in general—consciously or unconsciously wants to possess people and keep them under control. Deep down in their soul, they would like to totally enslave another person, for example even in the name of love, which they, unfortunately, often merely proclaim vehemently.
Behind insincere words about feelings and love, protection, help, and concern for another person, one sometimes—or often, for their entire life, usually—has a hidden or masked insatiable need to control and direct, and even psychically manipulate, the conduct and behaviour of people for their personal benefit. This means that, whenever possible, they want to have another person's actions under control and in their hands as long as it is advantageous to them. And this deliberate, masked control of what happens, almost exclusively for one's own benefit, is presented as love and help, protection, care, or interest in another person. The reason for dramatic breakups, divorces of partners, the suffering of children and parents, or partners in unkind families should also be sought here. And this is where the cause of the disturbance of the human psyche and health lies, which manifests as distress and health disorders of the person in the form of psychosomatic illnesses. Life in the social environment of false and hypocritical "love" often becomes a trigger of a maladaptive way of social life for a broad circle of people. The origin of psychosomatic disorders has its roots in long-term psychologically stressful situations that persist as unresolved mental pressure and therefore as pressure on people's health. Psychologically and socially unprocessed family, partner, work, social, and other mentally stressful situations collectively trigger somatic and mental health damage in people. As someone aptly put it, life in today's world is in many ways "a stage on which you must stand even if your heart is bleeding, while your face must keep smiling."
A sound and reasonable person understands that only by achieving one's own mental and social development is it possible to cope psychologically with any destructive social pretense and camouflage. The challenge for people today remains to act and behave in a socially and personally mature way, with respect both toward oneself and toward other people. There is apparently no other path to a meaningful human life.